Our Thanksgiving Meditation for 2010

25 November 2010 15:34

MonsignoreOur Thanksgiving Meditation for 2010Seattle, WA – “Brothers & Sisters… To silence our egos, we press the mute button and call upon the Light to speak on our behalf, especially on this occasion of Thanksgiving, so that our every word elevates our collective soul and all existence, as we gather together with grateful hearts to sing our appreciations for all the universe has given us… the passions that ignite our spirits, the challenges that have spurred our growth, the opportunities before us and the communities of family and friends that feed our souls through it all… And as we meditate upon our personal blessings, we offer our thanks to Mother Earth for nurturing our journey and Father Time for granting the cycles that give us perspective and hope… May we embrace each other as Family, with open hearts and minds, through this dinner, this holiday season and the year to come in Love and Light… Amen.” ~ Tony Buff as Chaplain for the Dragon Clan this day of Thanksgiving


4 May 2010 8:59

PersonalSeattle, WA – When I met my boy Derek da Silva nearly four years ago at my first Inferno in 2006, our connection was immediate and our relationship grew with a passion that was rare and unexpected. I collared Derek in May of 2007 on the set of our first ‘art film’ together, Soldiers of Misfortune, and we began our long distance, D/s relationship as Sir and boy. I can’t help but smile when I look back upon that time and remember our adolescent-like enthusiasm and unbridled Sadomasochistic fervor. Derek introduced me to a new cadre of fetish/Sm players at the national and international levels, in addition to a niche market for ‘this thing of ours’ within the adult film industry. In turn, I introduced Derek to my community of family and friends, primarily stationed in my Pacific Northwest home, and partnered with him on a variety of activities that kept us traveling across the North American continent performing, teaching, playing and serving as advocates for respect and responsibility. Our relationship played out on stage, across the screen, in print, over the internet and under the scrutiny of the public eye. It seemed a natural extension of our activism and sense of adventure. Read the rest of this entry »

Leather Leadership Conference XIV

10 April 2010 9:38

TrainerLeather Leadership Conference XIVDetroit, MI – My boy Derek da Silva and I are in Detroit, MI this weekend for the Leather Leadership Conference (LLC). The Leather Leadership Conference is an organization dedicated to strengthening the BDSM/Leather/Fetish/Kink community by providing the stepping stones of learning and knowledge to assist in the development of the leadership skills of community members. Their goal is to aid in the growth and success of organizations and community groups through the development of these skills by providing access to leadership information and topics. By strengthening the leaders in our community they hope to facilitate a greater sense of connection between and within community groups. Derek and I are here this year to facilitate a presentation and guided discussion entitled Building Communities that Feed Your Soul. Read the rest of this entry »

Titles, Sashes, Bashes and Crashes

3 March 2010 0:26

MonsignoreTitles, Sashes, Bashes and CrashesPalm Springs, CA – A very interesting thread hit my inbox a couple weeks ago from the GLPW mailing list. What apparently began as a question regarding Sashes became a discussion about titleholders, and I was called out by my brother Gene Romaine (pictured right on the left at the most recent Gear Night at the Cuff courtesy of Graves). Yes, it’s true, I am a Leather titleholder. I served my local community as Washington State Mr Leather in 2002. And yes, I wore the Sash that came with that title on exactly three occasions; the night of the contest when I stepped up, the day I marched in the Seattle Pride parade with the Leather contingent, and, finally at the contest a year later when I stepped down. Truth is I don’t really like sashes; I find them so pretentious. My title vest, however, I have worn with pride on countless occasions. Even now, eight years later, around this time in March, my title vest comes off the heavy plastic hanger in the closet and put back on my back. Read the rest of this entry »

La Famiglia: the Dragon Clan & Family Buff

22 July 2009 19:08

MineLa Famiglia: the Dragon Clan & Family BuffSeattle, WA – Family is important. It can provide a sense of belonging, support and love. Regardless of the relationship we may have with our biological families, for many queers like me, it is our families of choice that provide the foundations of our lives. This is, in my experience, especially true for my fellow kinksters, gender queers and those of us who express radically alternative sexual identities. While I have been witness to a few notable exceptions, for the most part, our queer identities were too much for our biological families to handle… their love was almost always conditional. They could love us so long as we didn’t turn into some faggot or dyke. They could still love us, while hating the sin, so long as we didn’t tell anyone, especially other members of the family who would never understand our dirty little secret. Father time and mother nature help you if you blurred your gender or got caught tying the neighbor kid to a tree and pissing on him a little, ’cause that would require professional help. By the time we became adults, we either learned to censor what we shared with the bios or we were censured by them. For me, the latter finally came when I was shooting my first, dirty little movie. I never really was one to accept conditions being placed on who I am. Read the rest of this entry »

2009 Washington State Leather Pride Week

24 March 2009 19:08

Monsignore2009 Washington State Leather Pride WeekSeattle, WA –- What a fucking week! I am completely spent but it was all well worth the effort and rewarding on so many levels. For me, Washington State Leather Pride week is about Clan, Family, Service and Play. Each year since 2002, this week in my local community has been marked by transforming experiences.

In 2002, I began my title year as Washington State Mr Leather and then stepped down in 2003 as my brother Mark Nunley stepped up. In 2004 I watched my brother Gene step up as Washington State Mr Leather and received a Leather Emblem Award for my service to the community. In 2005 I was asked to join WSMLO’s Board of Directors. In 2006 I began producing the contest that serves as the anchor event of the week’s festivities. In 2007, I got to share my family and local community with Derek for the first time. In 2008, Derek was with me again, only this time as my collared boy, and I was sainted by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Or was that in 2007? I digress.

This year was no exception. Over the course of the past year, the Dragon Clan has grown to ten Brothers and Sisters. Eight of them were on-hand in Seattle this week including Brothers Gene Romaine, Odie Heaston, Mark Nunley, Hugh, myself and Sisters Panther, Mercea and Lynnda Hale. The only two missing, and missed, were Brothers Tristan Steel and Mark Bozif.

My own family has grown to four with three collared boys (photo above). Granted one is a collar of consideration, but I’m already beginning to consider Blueeyes part of the family. This was the first opportunity the three boys have had to meet each other in person. While the pace of events through the week and the sheer demand on everyone’s efforts prevented the kind of bonding I would have hoped for, I realize that will come over time. Three things are totally clear however; these are great boys, they already care for one another deeply and a sense of family has developed.

2009 Washington State Leather Pride WeekOf course, I ended up throwing yet another variable into the mix. Last week I invited Element (photo left), a boy I meet in Portland over Sash Bash, to come up and visit me. We had planned for him to stay Tuesday and Wednesday but something special happened so I asked him to stay through the weekend. Element is a beautiful and kinky 22 year old boy who has never really experienced what I had introduced him to during our short time together and he was acting very much like an orphan that had finally found a home. I couldn’t send him home without offering him a glimpse at the community that feeds my soul. He stayed and, much like Derek two years ago, witnessed why I call Seattle, the Pacific Northwest and our leather/Sm community home. He and Derek definitely bonded over the weekend… kindred spirits I think.

I had all four boys in tow for the contest on Saturday and a cast of volunteers that help the event go off without a hitch. And part of that going off without a hitch was the presentation of a National Leather Emblem Award to my boy Derek for his service to our community in Washington State, without him knowing about it before hand. For the record, I had nothing to do with the nomination, recused myself from the debate and abstained from the vote. You earned it all on your own, boy, and join the ranks of some pretty impressive past recipients. Congratulations.

I want to thank our judges for the 2009 Washington State Mr|Ms Leather competition: Linda Coomas, our Head Judge; International Bootblack 1996 Todd; Washington State Mr & Ms Leather 2007 Gylan and Candy; and Seattle’s own Bootblack Boris. I want to extend my deepest appreciation to the many volunteers including: our emcees, Ronda & Lynnda; volunteer ASL Interpreters Joel & David; Judges’ Runner Paka; Judges’ Tallies Dawn & Jeremy; Contestant Coordinator Panther; Doormen Tom & Percy; Stage Manager Odie; and our crew of boys Derek, Josh, Tim, Danny and Element.

My congratulations go out to Toby Noon and Lamalani who served outstanding years as Washington State Mr & Ms Leather 2008. My thanks and best wishes go with both of them as Toby continues his service in our local community as President of Seattle Men in Leather and Lamalani as she steps up as the new d’IMsL (inside joke… my bad).

Please join me in welcoming our new 2009 Washington State Mr & Ms Leather Doug & Angie, and in thanking our first runner-up for the Mr title, Jim, for putting himself in the running and for all the work he continues to put in for the community.

Of course, none of this would be possible without the support of our sponsors, Miller Brewing and Columbia Distributing Company; or our host bar, the Cuff Complex and its staff. Thanks guys.