Comments for tonyBuff http://tonybuff.com activist, educator, performance artist and player in the fetish/Sm scene Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:26:59 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 Comment on Hard Choice Performer of the Year by lucky http://tonybuff.com/posts/hard-choice-performer-of-the-year/comment-page-1#comment-1602 lucky Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:26:59 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2790#comment-1602 I am happy for you! I love your films, I love your style, and it seems to me even in your interactions in films you are a true leader. I would like to congratulate you and wish you all the best Sir. I am happy for you! I love your films, I love your style, and it seems to me even in your interactions in films you are a true leader. I would like to congratulate you and wish you all the best Sir.

]]> Comment on Mr San Diego Eagle 2010 by Mike Russell http://tonybuff.com/posts/mr-san-diego-eagle-2010/comment-page-1#comment-1601 Mike Russell Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:08:06 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2766#comment-1601 Somebody said that he couldn't be, but he with a chuckle replied: "Ask a brother to help and he will lend a hand, but he might a red hanky in his left pocket!" Stepping up is what we do here in San Diego. Reaching out has always been our mean of survival. As a community, we answered the call of duty to make the 2010 Mr. San Diego Eagle happen! Tony and Derek you left your mark on us, and we are forever grateful! I would like to give props to everyone in the community, near and far, for making the weekend a success. We connected and shared energy. And we're gonna do it again, again, and again! We'll see you in Palm Springs April 23-24 for 2010 California Leather Sir/boy and Community Bootblack! Mike and cubby jeff Somebody said that he couldn’t be, but he with a chuckle replied: “Ask a brother to help and he will lend a hand, but he might a red hanky in his left pocket!” Stepping up is what we do here in San Diego. Reaching out has always been our mean of survival. As a community, we answered the call of duty to make the 2010 Mr. San Diego Eagle happen! Tony and Derek you left your mark on us, and we are forever grateful! I would like to give props to everyone in the community, near and far, for making the weekend a success. We connected and shared energy. And we’re gonna do it again, again, and again! We’ll see you in Palm Springs April 23-24 for 2010 California Leather Sir/boy and Community Bootblack! Mike and cubby jeff

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by Tom http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1598 Tom Tue, 16 Feb 2010 05:40:32 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1598 Chicago leatherman chiming in here. I fully support you& your partner playing in public. Look, I came out in the 80's, first in the preppy-clone scene, then the quasi-punk/new-wave scene - again, a clone scene. In both (bar) settings, I never felt like my true self, UNTIL I finally entered my first leather bar (DC Eagle). Here was the first place I could OPENLY indulge my true identity as a sex pig/exhibitionist. I learned how to be proud of being a submissive Daddy's boy and service openly at the bar, backroom, etc, learning from old school leathermen who showed me the ropes, literally..at the bar. I took that experience with me when I moved to Chicago to be with my partner of 10 years. We've had an open and honest relationship BECAUSE we learned to accept our sexual hunger at places like leather bars. I do have to take exception to your snarky reference to "BIE" being a "former Marine". There's no such thing as a "former" Marine - once a Marine, always a Marine. You can piss on the Marine (if he's flagging yellow), but you can't piss on his service and sacrifice in honor of our country. Doing that just dampens your argument (pun intended). Otherwise, rock on with sex-play and leading in a new generation of SM leathermen. Chicago leatherman chiming in here. I fully support you& your partner playing in public. Look, I came out in the 80’s, first in the preppy-clone scene, then the quasi-punk/new-wave scene – again, a clone scene. In both (bar) settings, I never felt like my true self, UNTIL I finally entered my first leather bar (DC Eagle). Here was the first place I could OPENLY indulge my true identity as a sex pig/exhibitionist. I learned how to be proud of being a submissive Daddy’s boy and service openly at the bar, backroom, etc, learning from old school leathermen who showed me the ropes, literally..at the bar. I took that experience with me when I moved to Chicago to be with my partner of 10 years. We’ve had an open and honest relationship BECAUSE we learned to accept our sexual hunger at places like leather bars.

I do have to take exception to your snarky reference to “BIE” being a “former Marine”. There’s no such thing as a “former” Marine – once a Marine, always a Marine. You can piss on the Marine (if he’s flagging yellow), but you can’t piss on his service and sacrifice in honor of our country. Doing that just dampens your argument (pun intended).

Otherwise, rock on with sex-play and leading in a new generation of SM leathermen.

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by blake http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1597 blake Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:16:43 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1597 Asking or demanding no play in a leather bar is like saying no kissing or hand holding in a gay bar. It is the "Don't Ask Don't Tell" of the gay community. Your list has the bullet points to prove these parallels. I've watched leather bars reach their peak and decline. This is mostly due to bar owners need money to say open. To do this they have to broaden their cliental not narrow it requiring them to always try to reinvent themselves. Sadly this pushes a lot of us out. However it should be the opportunity educate, explore and recruit (bad word choice here) our larger men's community. It use to be that we had to go out to meat, greet and entertain "friends". The internet has ruined that. Now any one can hook up on free sites, get a quick wank by giving up some personal information while staying at home in some chemical induced fantasy away from the safety of reality. Asking or demanding no play in a leather bar is like saying no kissing or hand holding in a gay bar. It is the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” of the gay community. Your list has the bullet points to prove these parallels.

I’ve watched leather bars reach their peak and decline. This is mostly due to bar owners need money to say open. To do this they have to broaden their cliental not narrow it requiring them to always try to reinvent themselves.

Sadly this pushes a lot of us out. However it should be the opportunity educate, explore and recruit (bad word choice here) our larger men’s community.

It use to be that we had to go out to meat, greet and entertain “friends”. The internet has ruined that. Now any one can hook up on free sites, get a quick wank by giving up some personal information while staying at home in some chemical induced fantasy away from the safety of reality.

]]> Comment on Hard Choice Performer of the Year by CynStorm http://tonybuff.com/posts/hard-choice-performer-of-the-year/comment-page-1#comment-1596 CynStorm Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:53:46 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2790#comment-1596 Congratulations Sir, well deserved! Congratulations Sir, well deserved!

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by trainer85705 http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1595 trainer85705 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 19:10:44 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1595 And where I live, the leather bars have indeed died. Arizona considers BDSM play to be "sexual activity" and so it's not allowed in any public spaces. If there are exceptions I'd love to know about them. Play while and where you can, men! And where I live, the leather bars have indeed died. Arizona considers BDSM play to be “sexual activity” and so it’s not allowed in any public spaces. If there are exceptions I’d love to know about them. Play while and where you can, men!

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by fang http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1594 fang Mon, 15 Feb 2010 15:04:03 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1594 oh to hear Letterman read this fucker out! ps: can this slavdog just say how much it liked #9 particularly :) kudos. oh to hear Letterman read this fucker out!

ps: can this slavdog just say how much it liked #9 particularly :)

kudos.

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by Dsqaure http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1590 Dsqaure Sun, 14 Feb 2010 02:26:43 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1590 I agree with your statement. I also caught on to that little "dig' made towards your critic. That of his being a "former Marine." Good one!! I agree with your statement. I also caught on to that little “dig’ made towards your critic. That of his being a “former Marine.” Good one!!

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by stephen http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1587 stephen Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:56:19 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1587 Tony, Stand your ground! You hit the nail on the head; Instigator Magazine put out a very similar article that came from (I beleive) the editor of the magazine who said roughly: that we should be visible and own our extreme play- we do some amazing crazy stuff!!! Own it- own your fetish! At the end of the day- it is the community that feeds your soul! It all ties in (no puns) intended! Thank you, Stephen Tony,

Stand your ground! You hit the nail on the head; Instigator Magazine put out a very similar article that came from (I beleive) the editor of the magazine who said roughly: that we should be visible and own our extreme play- we do some amazing crazy stuff!!! Own it- own your fetish! At the end of the day- it is the community that feeds your soul! It all ties in (no puns) intended!

Thank you,

Stephen

]]> Comment on Top 10 Reasons to Play in a Leather Bar by chris http://tonybuff.com/posts/top-10-reasons-to-play-in-a-leather-bar/comment-page-1#comment-1586 chris Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:07:50 +0000 http://tonybuff.com/?p=2782#comment-1586 That's totally fucked up. The leather bars where I've lived can't even really be called leather bars. Low lighting and shady people don't make it a leather bar. I wish there were more guys that felt comfortable doing these type of things in public. Especially with 2 hot guys like you doing it, I know no one that would complain. Please keep leather/bdsm alive. That’s totally fucked up. The leather bars where I’ve lived can’t even really be called leather bars. Low lighting and shady people don’t make it a leather bar.

I wish there were more guys that felt comfortable doing these type of things in public. Especially with 2 hot guys like you doing it, I know no one that would complain.

Please keep leather/bdsm alive.

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