ShibariCon Tomorrow

27 May 2010 12:18

TrainerShibariCon TomorrowChicago, IL – Tomorrow, Derek da Silva and I will be presenting at ShibariCon for the second time. ShibariCon is the world’s premier annual exhibition and conference that focuses on education and information exchange among lovers of Japanese rope bondage. The conference provides an inclusive and supportive environment for the exchange of ideas, education, friendship and community. This year, Derek and I will be presenting two classes at ShibariCon on Friday 28 May. As expected, registration is currently sold out, but if you’re already attending, we would like to invite you to…
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Leather Leadership Conference XIV

10 April 2010 9:38

TrainerLeather Leadership Conference XIVDetroit, MI – My boy Derek da Silva and I are in Detroit, MI this weekend for the Leather Leadership Conference (LLC). The Leather Leadership Conference is an organization dedicated to strengthening the BDSM/Leather/Fetish/Kink community by providing the stepping stones of learning and knowledge to assist in the development of the leadership skills of community members. Their goal is to aid in the growth and success of organizations and community groups through the development of these skills by providing access to leadership information and topics. By strengthening the leaders in our community they hope to facilitate a greater sense of connection between and within community groups. Derek and I are here this year to facilitate a presentation and guided discussion entitled Building Communities that Feed Your Soul. Read the rest of this entry »

KinkFest 2010

21 March 2010 12:26

TrainerKinkFest 2010Portland, OR – My boy Derek da Silva and I rendezvoused in Portland, OR for KinkFest this weekend. In addition to enjoying the company of other kinksters from around the country (surprisingly KinkFest is now as large an event as Thunder in the Mountains), we’ve been presenting classes as part of the weekend’s educational series. Yesterday’s advanced Shibari Fundamentals class went exceptionally well. With approximately 90 or so people in attendance, the class definitely rivaled those we’ve presented at ShibariCon and Thunder in past years. This afternoon we’ll be presenting our Bondage for CBT class, ties and applied techniques for cock and ball bondage. While we are not comfortable publishing handouts for the Shibari class on partial and full suspension techniques we presented yesterday, we are posting our slides and handouts for the Bondage for CBT class we will be presenting later today. You can follow these links to access the full color slides and class handouts accompanying Bondage for CBT in PDF format.

Mr San Diego Eagle Contest this Weekend

4 February 2010 18:46

TrainerMr San Diego Eagle Contest this Weekend Seattle, WA – With just over twenty-four hours in Seattle I’m already about to head back to the airport. This evening’s destination is San Diego, California where I’ll be staying the weekend while serving as head judge for the Mr San Diego Eagle contest. I’m quite excited about returning to San Diego and the opportunity to build new connections within the community of fetish/Sm players in the region. Even better, I get to share the weekend with my boy Derek Da Silva, who will be flying in from Chicago to be with me for the weekend. Tomorrow evening we’re slated to present an impact play demonstration during the Mr San Diego Eagle Meet & Greet and I’m planning a very special post to the blog tomorrow that relates directly to our demo. So, if you live or are going to be in San Diego this weekend… Read the rest of this entry »

1 Rope, 2 Knots and 3 Ties

25 April 2009 10:04

Trainer1 Rope, 2 Knots and 3 TiesCleveland, OH — Derek and I are about to teach our One Rope, Two Knots and Three Ties workshop at CLAW. The class will be held at Flex as part of the Skills Workshops Series. The class starts at 2:40pm. You can download a PDF of the class handout by clicking the image to the right.

This is an introductory class that simplifies rope bondage down to its most basic elements. There are limitless possibilities in the creative use of few basic ties. All you really need are a couple of simple knots and a few simple ties to have a ton of fun. We will show how most bondage is done by combining a few basic building blocks – and show very easy to learn ways to do them. Then we’ll show how these can be combined in endless creative ways. Ties covered include a simplified one column tie, a simplified two column tie and a basic body harness. All of these are done using only two different knots – yet they can be used for varying applications like a spread eagle bed tie, a hog tie, a chair tie, and many other variations.

This class seeks to teach a foundational philosophy of bondage that breaks away from rote ties and instead shows how you can unleash countless ties by using your creativity in combining a few simple building blocks.

Bring at least one piece of 30′ rope (or more rope for more fun) for this hands-on class.

Folsom Street Fair 2008

29 September 2008 15:20

TrainerFolsom Street Fair 2008San Francisco, CA –- Yesterday marked the first anniversary of my art film debut with the release of Fear, the release of my seventh feature Folsom Undercover and the second Folsom Street Fair with my boy Derek. This entry also marks the one year anniversary of this blog which has chronicled what has proven to be a wild and unexpected adventure.

Wild is definitely the adjective I’d use to describe yesterday’s festivities at the street fair. Derek and I arrive a little after noon to work our shifts at the TitanMen/NakedSword mega booth and the streets were already crowed asshole to bellybutton with people. Titan provided headshots for all the performers to sign, calendars to give away and a large stack of my ‘trading cards’ from NakedSword for me to hand out. As soon as we got into the booth there were calls from the crowd for autographs and photo ops. Derek and I jumped right in greeting both fans and friends as they came to the booth, giving away studio swag and a gift of our own.

Derek and I brought 300 black & white checkered hankies to hand out at the booth this year (photo above). The checker hanky is the hanky code flag for safer sex and represents a commitment to responsible play. Over the past year we’ve learned of far too many of our friends and acquaintances seroconverting, witnessed a cavalier attitude toward safer sex practices grow to become nearly normative and risk behavior touted as transgressive, edgy and cool. Bull shit.

Folsom Street Fair 2008The checker hanky was introduced in the 80’s, when as a community we worked hard to advocate safer sex and get the message out. And it worked; HIV transmission rates decreased through the 80’s and 90’s. Now, as we begin the 21st century, HIV transmission rates are on the rise among men who have sex with men. Something’s gone terribly wrong.

I was lucky; I got the message early. I realized I love sex and learn at an early age that the safer I was doing it the longer I’d be around to do it. I know a couple of ‘art film’ personalities handing out checkered hankies isn’t going to make much of a difference in the grand scheme of things, but if we can encourage even a few people to stand fast in their personal commitment to sexual health and the health of their partners regardless of HIV status then perhaps the message will reach more people than 300 checkered hankies.

Last year might have been larger than life but this year was mobile. Titan had wrapped the studio’s production van with the images of several exclusives, including yours’ truly (image above). We were playing the Blu-Ray™ edition of Folsom Undercover in the back of the van, but I wasn’t in a position to see the movie. I don’t think we would have had much time to take it in anyway. Titan seemed to have everyone on hand for the event. François Sagat, Dean Flynn, Diesel Washington, Alex Baresi, Dirk Jager, Frank Philipp, Eduardo, Rich van Sant, Chad Manning, Dominic Sol and Marco Blaze were all at the booth in addition to Derek and me.

Folsom Street Fair 2008Bonus: In addition to all those beautiful men, there was one more wonderful surprise, my boy from Seattle. Jeff (photo right) had been vacationing in Hawaii and had changed his flights home to include a stopover in San Francisco to join Derek and I at the Folsom Street Fair. It was great to have him there, but I wish I had gotten a chance to spend more time with him and I’m sure the whole thing was rather bizarre for him. He was a great help throughout the day and I need to think of a way to thank him for being there… oh, wait, I’ve got a pretty good idea how I can thank him, same way I thanked him yesterday morning for coming into town.

Toward the end of the day, NakedSword ask if Derek and I would come over their booth to create a crowd. It was our pleasure to help out our friends at NakedSword. A little impromptu rope bondage and impact play seemed to do the trick quite nicely (photo below by Darwin Bell for TheSword.com). I tied Derek down in one of my favorite ties for sex, his arms and legs securely bound beneath him with his ass exposed, then proceeded to deliver a good spanking with my hands and belt. The crowed seemed both horrified by and attracted to the intensity of this spur of the moment scene, which was really quite timid by our standards. At one point I overheard someone in the throngs say, “its okay they’re partners.”

Folsom Street Fair 2008Afterward, we did a little instructional bondage work, stuck around for some photo ops/autographs and handed out the last of the hankies.

When the street fair closed down Derek, Jeff and I walked over to the Hole in the Wall’s new digs and finally got some quality time together. While many of our friends decided to go to the Real Bad party, we preferred the music and surroundings of one of our favorite dive bars. And did we have fun. There’s nothing like cutting loose after being ‘on’ all day.

This morning we sent Jeff off to the airport for his flight home. Derek and I just got back from brunch and some shopping in the Castro and are about to head out to the airport ourselves. I’m exhausted, have picked up a cold and am not looking forward to saying goodbye to my boy. Luckily we get to see each other again in a couple weeks at ILSb.